You've recently gotten out of a relationship because the two of you are no longer jiving. You remember the good old days when you used to click…but now...well, the Righteous Brother’s song “You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling” comes to mind.
You’ve had enough of your ex’s behaviour...and, quite frankly, it reminds you of your previous relationship with old 'so-and-so'.
You decide to start fresh and find someone that totally gets you…and you do! You two are connecting, the birds are singing, the planets are aligning!
Fast forward a few months and you start seeing many similarities between this person and your previous boyfriend/girlfriend.
So, what gives?
First, everything is energy. This means that like energy always attracts like energy. Your vibration is matching up with a similar vibration.
When you enter into a new relationship and you discover you’ve attracted the same thing, except different person, what has happened is your vibration has not changed. If the last 5 partners have all been eerily similar, then there is something that you need to work on inside of you to change your vibration of what you truly want to attract.
Abraham –Hicks calls this 'working a vibrational groove’. You basically have made your current vibration a habit and are now creating by default rather than deliberately. You probably don’t even realize that you are giving off that vibration because you are so used to it.
However, if you don’t like what you are creating, you have to get deliberate about it, and that means tending to your vibration. You need to be aware of what is going on inside you.
What are your internal thoughts and feelings about yourself, about relationships, about your significant other, or what you expect in a significant other? What are your beliefs regarding relationships? This is the work.
The work isn’t signing up for an online dating site. The work isn’t changing your hair colour. The work is going deep within and finding out what is really going on.
So, what do you do about it? You start by changing your vibe. This means stop living like it’s the past. Stop replaying all those old scenarios of hurt and betrayal and confusion. Decide what it is you want. Decide how you want to feel, and then feel it. Don’t back down from feeling those good feelings. You really have to be on top of your thoughts and emotions to change to a new vibration. Once you get into the groove of these new thoughts and emotions, and the negative stuff takes a back seat, that’s when you start to see change happen!