This "Living Authentically" thing has been on my mind all week (see my previous blog post on Your Authentic Self). The conclusion that I came to was that: I'm not living authentically... and most people aren't.
After I heard Alanis Morissette talk on Super Soul Sunday, it had me thinking lots about who I am. Truly.
She spoke about getting past the lies to the place where there is only truth. These lies that we tell ourselves usually come in the form of:
I'm not worthy.
I'm not valuable.
My work is not valuable.
I have nothing to offer.
I'm not good enough.
We wear a mask so others don't see what is really going on; not being straight forward with ourselves. Perhaps we are doing things that don't resonate with who we are, but do them to please others, save face, and to keep the facade going. When really, we are crumbling inside.
When I speak of the authentic self, I'm not talking about the personality, or how we 'always' are when around others.
That is not the authentic self. Those things have to do with behaviours and beliefs that were instilled in us. That is your ego. That's the stuff we identify ourselves with, but are not who we really are.
For me, it was a moment of realization: I'm not being authentic to me. I'm not doing those things that I resonate with. I'm not being true to who I am. I am not being true to where I want to go in this life experience. I'm not being authentic with others. I do things to make other people feel better at the cost of myself feeling worse.
This happens in love relationships too: we adjust our behaviour to impress or accommodate. We lose ourselves. We tell ourselves that our needs do not need to be met. Our opinions aren't as important. Our time is not important. Our dreams are not important.
We stop trusting our own guidance. We stop believing in our self worth. We stop believing in our own abilities. We stop believing that we are this amazing being that can create worlds.
Have you been living authentically?
What lies have you told yourself?
Keep shining, Beautiful Souls.